Sac Town

[kazkillinger]

Ok guys iam going today to sac town to meet my dad for the first time and i was wondering if any ones lives there so i can check out some rides. p.s. he dosent know iam coming any advice?

[Sp00ner]

Yikes... that's touchy one... I was put in a VERY similar situation... my grandparents raised me. So I always refered to them as mom and dad. My actual mother told me that my real father owns/runs an automotive upholstrey shop in Rockford, IL. Said that we should go down there, get my Camaro redone and chit-chat... I declined. I decided that I already had a father and didn't need second one that didn't care for the first 25 years....

To each their own... good luck to you man. Much respect.

[kazkillinger]

Originally Posted by Sp00ner

Yikes... that's touchy one... I was put in a VERY similar situation... my grandparents raised me. So I always refered to them as mom and dad. My actual mother told me that my real father owns/runs an automotive upholstrey shop in Rockford, IL. Said that we should go down there, get my Camaro redone and chit-chat... I declined. I decided that I already had a father and didn't need second one that didn't care for the first 25 years....

To each their own... good luck to you man. Much respect.

thnx man iam really shittings bricks but i figure this has to happen eventually and i dont want it to be to late.

[Sp00ner]

Originally Posted by kazkillinger

thnx man iam really shittings bricks but i figure this has to happen eventually and i dont want it to be to late.

It's gonna be uncomfortable, I remember when I went to live with my mother after being seperated for 15 years.... just stick it out... remember, he's probably got alot of 'you' in him, and vice-versa.

[kazkillinger]

right iam his offspring how different can he be. and i know its gonna be very uncomfortable espicially with his family and all. *ugh* cause i dont know if they are gonna hate or be nice. but i dont care if they dont like me ill show'em the real sac town j/p ! buyt thnx for the reassurance i need it. imean all the shit i have been throught boot, arrest,sere training just makes me feel like iam not in control and i hate it.

[Sp00ner]

Originally Posted by kazkillinger

right iam his offspring how different can he be. and i know its gonna be very uncomfortable espicially with his family and all. *ugh* cause i dont know if they are gonna hate or be nice. but i dont care if they dont like me ill show'em the real sac town!

1/3 are gonna hate, 1/3 are gonna be 'fake' to make you feel better, and 1/3 will accept it with an open mind. Anyone that knows he has a son, is going to have already made up their minds before you get there. The ones that haven't are going to do it the minute you setp out of the car, so be NORMAL as possible. Unless that means being hard to deal with, then tone it down. You'll be fine, it's just like any other party...

I had to meet my stepfather's family when I moved in with my mom and him, I was from Chicago, and they were strict Southern Baptists that had never left Jacksonville Fl...

[kazkillinger]

wow thats a sitiation their. idont know there realigon or anything. but i do know that he is loaded and that where his family's green eye is gonna show i just have to convience them that iam no there for that. but that will be on the plane ride over there.

[Sp00ner]

Originally Posted by kazkillinger

wow thats a sitiation their. idont know there realigon or anything. but i do know that he is loaded and that where his family's green eye is gonna show i just have to convience them that iam no there for that. but that will be on the plane ride over there.

Ahhhh! The blood-sucker angle! Yea, when I moved back with my grandparents, I got the same thing. From the people that had helped them raise me for fucks sake. All of a sudden, I was there for the money. What's funny though, is when my grandparents got rid of the business to my uncle and set up the aunts for life... guess where they went... who knows? Calls stopped, spur of the moment visits stopped, and guess where Sp00ner was? At the house next door, doing yardwork, helping them get things like the VCR to work, gave them a computer that I built, etc, etc, etc. Now who's the bloodsuckers? My grandparents knew what was up, and that was all that ever mattered. When my grandfater passed away this Christmas, guess who was still there, and guess who's still taking care of his grandmother everyday that he can? Ya... me....

[kazkillinger]

well that show u are a good man and yeah its gonna take a lot for them not to see me like that. my good nature and witty personality will help. But as that story u just told me i would probably be the one mowing and all that so i know were on the same mind set

[rip_vw32]

Originally Posted by kazkillinger

right iam his offspring how different can he be. and i know its gonna be very uncomfortable espicially with his family and all. *ugh* cause i dont know if they are gonna hate or be nice. but i dont care if they dont like me ill show'em the real sac town j/p ! buyt thnx for the reassurance i need it. imean all the shit i have been throught boot, arrest,sere training just makes me feel like iam not in control and i hate it.

Holy crap, are you serious?? I have met a few guys that went through that when I was in the NAV.....Hell, if you can handle that, there ain't nuthin you can't handle (Including first reunions)!!! BZ to you!!